I've always been someone who has been confident in certain situations.
Around close friends, family and small group situations. But put me in a room full of strangers, and my personality disappears. I'm quiet and reserved; all my confidence goes out the window.
The Boyfriend has given me a little okay, maybe a big push towards doing something about it. Initially it came as a bit of a surprise. I didn't think I had an issue. But the more I thought about it, the more I knew he was right. And to be honest, that was a little hard.
I'm over that now, and it's time to make some changes.
Here's my little list of the things that make me feel confident and the steps I can take towards getting there.
(1)Present yourself well
Nothing makes me feel more beautiful than having a good hair day. I'm lucky to have such think hair, and lots of it too! The more I look after it, the nicer it looks. And so I promise myself to take better care of my hair.
Putting a touch of makeup on to make myself look like a better version of me, gives me such a confidence boost. Sometimes I worry that people would think that it's odd for me to wear so much eye makeup during the day. Then I kick myself a little and think "Who cares!".
(2)Fake it till you make it
By imagining and pretending to be confident, eventually I will be confident.
(3)Take a risk
There's nothing more rewarding then the feeling of throwing yourself into the unknown and realising that you survived. First I am going to get a haircut. Nothing too drastic, but something that's a little of a risk for me. Then I'm going to my course mixers, and I'm going to introduce myself and talk to complete strangers.
I am more terrified of speaking to total strangers than getting a bad haircut.
(4)Wearing nice clothes
I don't care if I end up wearing the same things on repeat, I'll try to change it up. But I promise myself to only wear the things that make me feel my best!
Budget allowing, I will purchase some more of the things that make me feel great!
(5)Sit at the front of my class
I've always been the sort of person that comes in and sits at the very back. I didn't want to be noticed, I didn't want to be asked questions in fear of getting the wrong answer. This year I'll be sitting at the very front.
People with good posture always appear to be confident. So, shoulders back, sit up straight and hold your head high!
As The Boyfriend keeps telling me, smiling will make me more approachable. And people will want to come to me. Or he said something along those lines. So I shall smile!
(8)Make a list of all your positive attributes
If I focus on all the good things about myself, I am bound to feel more confident. So, I'll make a list and read it over and over, until I remember to focus on my positives.
(9)Surround yourself with positive people
That's easy for me. The Boyfriend really helps me with that. Always encouraging me to do something, being sure that I WILL make it, and challenging me.
(10)Live in the moment
Worry less, just do it! The more I worry about certain situations, the more they terrify me. I think of all the things that could go wrong and what people will think. By not worrying, those other things won't come to mind. I know it's easier said than done. It's something I really need to work on.
Realising that ultimately making mistakes is the best way to learn, and what people think really does not matter, is the first step!
What are things that you do that help you feel confident?
Happy Monday everyone!